SOCIOPATH AS PARENT

 

1. He will love bomb his own children, and then suddenly discard them as well. The extra bonus for a psychopathic-parent is that he can repeat this for a very long time and the child has no way of going NC, if the child gets as far as understanding what is going on then hard work has been done (mostly by the caring parent sometimes with the help of a good therapist).
   
   They have a power-over relationship with the child.
   In other words whereas in a normal relationship people influence each other, with a psychopathic-parent he exercises his power over his children and feels entitled to this – plus the psychopath has ‘a legal right’ to this, the law does not distinguish between types of relationships.
   
   
   They do not love their children, but will demand love in return.
   And even when the children do adore their psychopathic-dad it will still not be enough, it never is. It will not be enough to appease him, not enough to trust the children and not enough to be there for them. On the other hand, any lack of complete adoration from the children will give him the ‘right’ to retaliate against you.
   
   They will use their children at will to prove themselves to a new partner.
   But sadly this also means that after totally discarding his own children and treating them as strangers, the psychopath will then be able to ‘prove’ to his new partner what an evil person you are and put the OW in a triangle with you that you never wanted. You get her anger (as do the children at times) and he gets her devotion and overflowing pity. Very rarely (not, in my experience) does he actually show himself to be proud of his children even though he sees himself as the best ever dad.
   
   

1. They know their own tricks and how to play them on the kids.
   In other words if he love-bombed you, he can do it to your children, and then suddenly discard them as well. The extra bonus for a psychopathic-parent is that he can repeat this for a very long time and the child has no way of going NC, if the child gets as far as understanding what is going on then hard work has been done (mostly by the caring parent sometimes with the help of a good therapist).
   
   They have a power-over relationship with the child.
   In other words whereas in a normal relationship people influence each other, with a psychopathic-parent he exercises his power over his children and feels entitled to this – plus the psychopath has ‘a legal right’ to this, the law does not distinguish between types of relationships.
   
   
   They do not love their children, but will demand love in return.
   And even when the children do adore their psychopathic-dad it will still not be enough, it never is. It will not be enough to appease him, not enough to trust the children and not enough to be there for them. On the other hand, any lack of complete adoration from the children will give him the ‘right’ to retaliate against you.
   
   They will use their children at will to prove themselves to a new partner.
   But sadly this also means that after totally discarding his own children and treating them as strangers, the psychopath will then be able to ‘prove’ to his new partner what an evil person you are and put the OW in a triangle with you that you never wanted. You get her anger (as do the children at times) and he gets her devotion and overflowing pity. Very rarely (not, in my experience) does he actually show himself to be proud of his children even though he sees himself as the best ever dad.